Mean girls start younger
Posted on October 11th, 2010
This article on the NY Times website is one of the reasons why I was terrified when I found out I was having a girl. Take it from someone who moved 519 times growing up (or maybe 10), girls are vicious. The article points out something I’d never seen anywhere else (but can attest to anecdotally):
“The girls who are the victims tend to be raised by parents who encourage them to be more age appropriate,” Ms. Rosenman said. “The mean girls are 8 but want to be 14, and their parents play along. They all want to be top dog.” And so the nastiness begins.
In my case, I was very young for school and then skipped a grade. Add to that all those moves, and, well, I know a lot about mean girls. I don’t remember them starting until fifth or sixth grade, though – the thought that P will have to start dealing with them in the next two or three years is chilling.

Oh, I didn’t even think of that when I heard I was having another boy — chances are this is our last kid, so hopefully we will escape the viciousness of preteen girl social circles.
Recently I went over to a group of moms at the playground who were all coiffed and slinging fancy diaper bags. They ignored me, but I recognized one of them from around town and ventured to talk to her. She smiled politely and then when the kids came running over, all the moms pulled out their organic snacks and started comparing the achievements of their kids. She went back to ignoring me while I stood there awkwardly. After a minute, I murmured an excuse and walked away. I was a little taken aback. But then I realized that mean girls probably grow up to be mean moms.
Oh, the roving bands of mean moms with Petunia Picklebottom and Kate Spade diaperbags and the $1000+ strollers! There are a number of boutiques nearby to feed their addictions. The first day I ran into a mean mom at a nearby park I was completely discombobulated. I consoled myself with the thought that her kid was ugly.
It really is very junior high.