In an effort to avoid writing a depressing post about lack of money/holiday spirit/job prospects, I bring you wisdom from my therapist. In my last session, I was wondering how to handle being cut off from my family, particularly around Christmas/gift giving time.
Her answer: Explain that my family is neglectful. It’s a new word for Pea; she’ll ask, “What’s that?” and then I say, “It means they aren’t good at staying in contact with people who [should be] important to them.” It puts the blame where it belongs (on the family), it’s completely truthful, and it doesn’t allow Pea to feel that any of it is her fault.
As the kids say? Boom.
Granted, after Pea said, “I have a lot of family” this morning, it didn’t stop me from muttering, “Yeah, but all the good ones are dead.” But it’s a start.