Some days just blow
Posted on September 25th, 2012
There is no one thing I can point to that says today blows.
There was the kid in my bed at 3 AM (booted out around 4, to sleep in until 7, when she refused to get up). I got plenty of hours of sleep. I still woke up exhausted.
There was hightailing it to get to school on time.
There’s the fact I discovered Pea engaged in highlighter graffiti in the book I’m reading.
There’s the fact Pea has been using my lipsticks and eyebrow pencil to draw on the bathroom counter. And admits, “I did it on purpose, Mama.” (Note to self: teach Pea to say, “I want a lawyer” if she’s ever picked up by the cops.)
There was park day at school, where my kid called out another kid for being mean…in front of that kid’s mom. (At least there was no bullying, and the bullied child from last week came up and hugged me.)
There was killing time waiting for Pea’s flu vaccination, which amounted to going out to lunch and then faux-shopping (real shopping requires real money) with a cranky, tired five-year-old. Going out to eat and shopping with a rested Pea is delightful. This was NOT delightful.
There was the waiting at the pediatrician’s office.
There was the traffic on the way home.
There was the tantrum Pea threw at home, up to and including saying “stupid Mommy.” That earned an extra ten minutes in her room on top of the ten she’d already earned for making a mess, refusing to pick it up, and then yelling about it. If you think I’m mean for not cleaving to the “one minute per year of age” timeout rule, then 1) you can kiss my ass, because I needed the peace and 2) she was not in timeout, she was in her room where she had lots of things to do.
There is the fact that this is actually day two of Pea being difficult. That makes it day two of not getting work done, and that makes me very, very grouchy.
So all in all, not a great day. It’s not one thing; it’s just the gestalt. If it didn’t screw with most of my meds, I’d say I really needed a drink now.

Blech! I am absolutely in favor of sending kids to their rooms for a certain amount of time and then until they can be civil. My rationale is that if you are acting like a jerk, you obviously need to be in your own space where no one else will be subject to your whims. You have to be civil to be in the public space.
Well, *they* have to be civil to be in the public space. I have to be there, whether I like it or not. So sometimes I yell.
I bet that hug felt so, so good. You may have changed that kid’s year.
Hope things get better. For us it seems the child ups and downs are changing too quickly to keep up!
I am so glad you got a hug from the little guy from last week. I hope today is a much better day.
I tossed the one year = one minute rule after P. hit three and started the typical three-year-old tantrum thing and experimenting with phrases like “I never want to see you again”. Like you, though, I’m sending P. to her room, not making her sit in a chair. Eventually, she calms down enough to either do a puzzle or something (giving us both a chance to calm the heck down) or to dramatically drag herself out of her room with big sloppy tears in her eyes to say “I’m sorry for X, mama.” But three minutes on a chair or something? Yeah, no. A time out, as far as I’m concerned, is a time out for both of us – and I usually need longer than 3 minutes.
How is apartment living going, after the loft?
It’s townhouse living, technically, so it isn’t much of a shift (in fact, we have fewer neighbors to notice now than we did in the loft).
It’s lovely having rooms (especially since one is “mine”), but I’ve been nostalgic for the loft, when it was big enough that we could all be together in the same place, doing our own things. Now our living area is just too small for that. We all want to hang out together, but I can’t work with the TV and Pea’s toys are upstairs, not downstairs, and there’s no one great place to congregate.
The little kid from last week hugged you
. I’ve been thinking about that little guy a lot. Mostly about he stoically went about his play as those two talked at him.
Some evenings I wish someone would send me to my room!