I’m reading Quiet: The Power of Introverts, and it’s like someone handed me a manual to Pea. And to M. And to me.
Because yes, we would rather watch other people than interact in a large group, especially at the end of a long day. Yes, we recharge by being alone (or in small groups) and for us, it’s not normal to, say, become instant friends with twenty new classmates. Yes, we are sound/light/smell sensitive. Yes, we think deeply about things and when our feelings are hurt, they are hurt deeply. Yes, there are real reasons why I hate group projects, forced interactions, and networking events — and why I would almost always prefer to email than talk on the phone.
Internet socialization? I love it. It doesn’t mean I don’t like spending time with my friends. It just means that I can only do it for so often before my resources are depleted.
And that’s normal for 1/3-1/2 of the population.
The book is written by a former BigLaw attorney, and while at times it’s a bit simplistic, it’s fascinating reading. I feel I have the tools to discuss Pea’s temperament with her teachers (current and future) as well as the ability to advocate for her in the future. That was my hope when I purchased the book, but as bonus, I found validation for all the things I felt/”knew” to be true about me, too.
The blog is well worth following, too. Here are ten tips for how to parent an introverted child.